We invite you to share your thoughts here on the Ames girls’ story, or to tell us about your own group of friends. (If there's a follow-up project, we may be back in touch for more details. Thanks!)
Fri, 20 May 2011 12:26:08 +0000
|(543) Toni Massey
Tue, 17 May 2011 11:59:37 +0000
This story resonates with me as six of us "'72 girls" from a small town near Raleigh, NC reunited during the year of our 50th birhtdays. We laughed and cried all weekend during that April 2004 gathering. We still felt connected, were able to be totally at ease with outselves and each other, and now try to get together about 3 times a year. We are scattered in cities around North Carolina.
May I suggest an all inclusive trip to Cancun for a 50th reunion for you all. You have a couple of years to save up and it really ends up an affordable trip.
Look forward to future updates and God's blessing for each of you. Keep up the connections as in any relationship, it is work! Our "girls of '72" have to "drop everything and reunite."
|(542) Marsha Drew
Tue, 17 May 2011 01:20:19 +0000
I am a Girl from Smiths Falls who like the girls from Ames shares a remarkable friendship with 11 friends from my little home town of 9000. We were born in 1966 and have begun to pass the book around after the sister of one our friends said you have to read this book they remind me of you girls.
I am the third one of the group to have read the book and I am totally enthralled by your story. We have been discussing which one of us best matches the girls from Ames.
It has been a complete and utter joy to read your story and to laugh and cry with you girls. Our lives parallel your lives in so many ways. It is so heartwarming to read a story about the bonds of love and trust that exist between women. When we are together we are middle- aged women who turn back into the girls of our youth. We are still those little girls playing dress up for real now.
We call ourselves the Birds and we were known in high school as the ding bats. We have been together in hearts and soul for over forty years as well.
Jeff thank-you for writing this story and describing this bond between females. It is so nice to hear stories about women being loving and kind to each other not competitive and mean.
To quote Stephen King
" I never had any friends later on like the ones I had when I was 12- Jesus, did you? " The Body ( Stand by Me)
That line still resonates to my soul and now the Girls of Ames has too.
I am going to make sure that all 11 of us read this book.
Thank-you for sharing your heart warming story.
I am grateful for the bonds that I share with my Birds and I think this book made me realize even more, that what we have in each other can never be replaced. Even though I haven't met you girls I now feel like I have bond with you all too.
|(541) Sue Gaston
Mon, 16 May 2011 00:26:06 +0000
Came home and reread The Girls from Ames for my local library book club. I'd first read it about a year ago, and recommended it to the group. Loved it as much on second reading at on first. Looking forward to our discussion tomorrow night.
Keep your friends close, nurture those friendships, and you will see only rewards.
|(540) Evelyn M. DeArmond
Sun, 15 May 2011 16:04:42 +0000
|(539) Heidi Schultz
Fri, 29 April 2011 14:19:59 +0000
We are all in our 30's, so the Ames Girls were about 10 years ahead of us. Still, so many excerpts paralleled our lives and interactions. Thier Midwestern values were much like those on which we were raised on grwoing up in rural Kansas. Furthermore, their story provided a glimpse into what lies ahead.
Amongst our group perhaps what is most unique is that all of us are still married to our original husbands. (One friend has remained single). Two of us even celebrate 17 year wedding anniversaries this summer!
I am giddy with excitement today as I prepare to travel to Nebraska this afternoon for this year's reunion. Much like the Ames girls, "This reunion... is just another step on a journey of friendship that should take (us) to the end of our lives."
Mon, 25 April 2011 21:04:18 +0000
|(536) Shannon Brooks
Wed, 20 April 2011 17:15:33 +0000
|(535) Vanessa Fontana
Tue, 19 April 2011 04:35:27 +0000
|(534) Jill M. Beaty
Mon, 18 April 2011 21:10:12 +0000
Am I crazy? I was so gripped by the grad pics of Marilyn, Sheila, Cathy, and Karla that I went looking for them in my yearbooks...so many faces and memories. Obviously, I didn't find them in my yearbooks (Milwaukee school), but I can't fight the feeling that I've seen these pictures before!!
Love to all the Women From Ames!
Mon, 18 April 2011 20:59:53 +0000
Fri, 15 April 2011 04:31:32 +0000
Reading the book was more like a short journey in someone else's life. I loved it. However, I am an Egyptian woman who got really offended at the end of the book when Egyptian women were described as submissive. Seriously going on a boat with an older man for a "job interview"!! Who is being submissive and naive here?! Please no need to generalize and stereotype others to cover our flaws.
Thu, 14 April 2011 21:35:31 +0000
As the daughter of a woman who has needed her friends during lifes up and downs, I always saw how important it was to keep girlfriends in your life. The "ya-yas" as my mom's group calls themselves, met over 30 years ago as freshman in college. Together, they have buried two husbands, have gone through one divorce, and have buried parents. Through it all, they have relied on each other. Growing up, my strongest memories are the fun that we "ya-ya-yettes" would have on our summer vacations and weeks. As a grown woman myself, I now appreicate thier friendship more for its strength and staying power than for its countless reunions, bottles of wine, and laughs.
As the first "ya-ya-yette", I am moved by how strong and intelligent these women are, and feel so lucky to count them as part of my extended family. I have one mother, and five ya-yas, all who have touched me in thier own pesonal way, either through a personal experience or the friendship that I have seem them give to my mother.
FAST FORWARD to 2004, when I met my ya-yas. We are a group of 10 that met in our sorority. We get together at least once a year for our annual reunion, but now, as we are untied by children, we get together many more times a year. We are in the very exciting stage of engagements and weddings. It is a thrill to see these girls I love meet and marry the men they love, and I look forward to meeting all of our future children. After reading your book, I know, that, in a group of 10, we are bound to experience heartache. But, as the ya-yas, and you all have proven to me, everything in life is capable of being lived through, you just need girlfriends and a few bottles of wine.
Cheers to you all and your health and happiness!
|(530) Kathie Ferkin
Mon, 4 April 2011 15:55:00 +0000
I am so moved by your stories! I feel like have 10 new friends. I went away for a weekend during my reading and felt terrible leaving you at home. I am one of "the girls of '64." We are a group over about 20 who reconnected after being out of Orange High School in California after 35 years. We meet once a year and are enjoying becoming close in our later years. Some are getting brave and sharing stories from the past! I appreciate your honesty so much. Cathy, if you ever want to meet for lunch, I'm game. Karla, we go to Anaconda every year, my husband's hometown. It's very much like Orange. Would gladly drive to Bozeman to meet you some time. Be healthy and take care.